“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Corrections and contradiction come from a variety of sources. You may, for example be “told about yourself” by someone who knows you well or you may receive corrective information from something like a bathroom scale, or a police officer on the side of the road. No matter what its source, you are wise to remember that you have a choice as to how you will receive it, no matter how objectionably it might be offered.
When you are corrected or contradicted, resist the temptation to launch thermonuclear warheads in retaliation. Take time to consider what is being offered. Look for the truth at its core. Take whatever lesson or perspective it may give to heart.
Never stop learning. Never stop improving.
Personal progress is a common side-effect of doing something for others. When you feel like you’re getting nowhere, whether it is writer’s block or a general pattern of frustration about your life at the moment, the best remedy just might be serving another in some unexpected and impromptu way.
Such frustrations in life have a way of hooking into deeper, and possibly unrelated feelings of malaise or futility. A little blockage might feel like an impenetrable wall of steel and concrete, even though it is little more than a leaf caught on a twig in the stream of creative living.
Rather than fussing with the blockage and saying to yourself, “If only this or that were different…if only I had this or that…”, look instead to do something for someone else as soon as possible. Don’t dilly-dally; don’t convince yourself that it must be something elaborate and then start making impossible plans to do the improbable. Just do something small with great love, quickly.
Restore the flow of creativity and positivity in you and through you and you’ll be a better person or at least be in a better space personally, instantly.
Fulfillment is not found in the attainment of personal desires, but in the enactment of love’s will.
We should be careful to get out of an experience only the wisdom that is in it — and stop there; lest we be like the cat that sits down on a hot stove-lid. She will never sit down on a hot stove-lid again — and that is well; but also she will never sit down on a cold one anymore. – Mark Twain, Following the Equator, Pudd’nhead Wilson’s New Calendar
Experience can teach us many things, but no two circumstances are ever alike. We must take care not to summarily overlay lessons of the past on the new shoots of circumstance, for in so doing we risk missing the newness, beauty, and wonder of life.
The wrong answers are more easily detected than the wrong questions. In my estimation, far too much time is spent debating the answers to incorrectly formed questions and far too little time is spent considering the fundamental question: “Are we asking the right question here?”
Loyalty bought with fear or greed is purchased at the expense of integrity. Those who submit their agency on this basis yield not to truth but to the hope for some gain, be it security, comfort, belonging or self-worth. Without integrity, such winnings are devoid of true and lasting fulfillment.