Making it Manageable

by Gregg Hake on February 22, 2012

If our education had included training to bear unpleasantness and to let the first shock pass until we could think more calmly, many an unbearable situation would become manageable, and many a nervous illness avoided.” ~ Claire Weekes

In a world where most people are not consistently giving their highest and finest you are bound to run into unpleasant situations every now and again, if not daily. The world we have is the result of the choices we’ve made collectively, and no matter how perfectly you’ve carried yourself in the midst of the chaos you are bound to feel the results of poor choices being made elsewhere.

Ask the toe who in and of himself would be healthy and strong were it not for the mouth who found an overly rich diet irresistible. Gout may be his burden even though it might not be his fault directly. So it is in the body of humanity. We may not all be visibly connected to one another, but the causal ricochets of the choices made and actions taken by others impact us constantly.

Realizing this, we needn’t be shocked when things don’t go as expected or when we encounter an unexpected rough patch. You can broaden your scope of expectation – anything can happen! – and resolve to make the most out of whatever does.

The vicissitudes of life are much more manageable than some would have you think. If you didn’t learn this lesson at home or at school while growing up, who says you can’t learn it now?

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The Prejudice of Paranoia

by Gregg Hake on February 21, 2012

I was walking home one night and a guy hammering on a roof called me a paranoid little weirdo. In morse code.” ~ Emo Phillips

It’s hard to be a cynic without indulging in paranoia on occasion.

The cynic grows to expect the worst in everything. He justifies his failure to assume responsibility for his best expression with a well-fortified set of jaded expectations. He reasons internally: “Why should I care or try when I am quite sure that those around me won’t?”

When, however, you make a commitment to expressing only your highest and finest, your personal attitudes toward the world change dramatically. As a result, something magical begins to happen. The best in those around you flows toward you as the best in you moves outward toward them.

Sure you will be disappointed by others on occasion, but the rush you get when the best   in you meets the best in others will put such let-downs into perspective. The internal shift in personal attitude will liberate you and those around you from the small boxes of your own making, thereby invalidating the prejudice of paranoia.

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Life on Purpose

02.20.2012

As I mentioned yesterday, cynicism is nothing more than the absence of radiance in individual expression. By radiance I do not mean the false and groundless optimism that some people manufacture by mental gymnastics or through intention and therefore “have.” The radiance of which I speak is the outward evidence of the presence of the [...]

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Your Central Purpose

02.19.2012

A friend visiting from Colorado asked an important question over lunch a couple of days ago, the answer to which finally surfaced during a quiet moment earlier today. While I didn’t ask, I imagine the question was asked as he is at an age (mid 20s) where I recall noticing the same thing in the [...]

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The Attitude of Cynicism

02.18.2012

It is commonly assumed that the attitude of cynicism is something that is caught, like a cold or flu, at a certain point in life. Some contract it earlier than others, but the majority of cases seem to develop in what is known as mid-life. Secondary symptoms often accompany the heart-hardening attitude called cynicism. Men [...]

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A Healthy World

02.17.2012

While I am incredibly grateful for the education I received at the Carroll Graduate School of Management at Boston College, I must admit that there was one area of function that I was not adequately prepared for as I moved on from school to the “real world” of owning and managing small businesses. I was [...]

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