You must be honest with yourself before you can be honest with others or even, believe it or not, with your Maker. If you are dishonest with yourself, you effectively wall yourself off from the help which is invariably at hand. Moreover, when you are dishonest with yourself, you shield the area in question from the healing currents which flow abundantly from within outward and from above down.
Free will is a powerful tool, in fact, it is the most powerful weapon in our arsenal as a race. Used wisely, it propels us to heights unimaginable. When it is misused, or worse, abused, we create hell on earth and misery for ourselves when we could just as easily be creating heaven on earth.