Weird Days

by Gregg Hake on March 4, 2014

Have you ever groped your way through what could only be described as a “weird” day, that is, a day where the familiar signposts and feelings are either misplaced or completely missing? Such days can be bewildering, if not downright disconcerting and if you’re not careful – and by that I mean if you take it personally – you run the risk of having a bad day for no good reason.

A second risk during these unfamiliar and often awkward times of transition between one creative cycle and the next (a no man’s land of sorts) is that you refrain from reacting to your own internal discomfort but instead react to the reactions of others around you who are not handling the “weirdness” with maturity or grace. This error, like the first, will send you on a downward spiral and potentially spoil the coming cycle.

The next time you find yourself in the doldrums or tumult of a weird day, be still. Observe, but don’t react. Don’t jump to conclusions. Don’t personalize all that passes through your feeling realm. Look instead to remain true to what you know to be true, even if for the moment everything seems topsy-turvy. Do this and you will save yourself an enormous amount of both trial and tribulation.

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1 Troy

These two points are so valuable, I know I could spend many hours contemplating them. I know that we all tend to personalize those feelings that pass through us, assuming they are ours . It is so easy to forget how to properly use our feeling realm, being so disconnected from our source. Your sweet reminders are simply asking us to use our capacities as they were designed. I feel that if I adequately avoid the first risk, my shot at avoiding the second will be much greater and allowing me to stay on the lighted path, holding firm to truth.

I relate your point above funny enough to those pilots who find themselves in the death spiral. Those who survive are the ones who are able to orient themselves to their instruments, even though everything they are feeling is telling them something different. It takes some experience, training, trust, and commitment to override those emotions and hold fast to truth. Life is an amazing journey!!!

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2 isabelle

This is excellent advise. It’s best to be calm and aware when you feel like you are in a valley. Wait to make any major decisions until you are on the mountain. You won’t regret it.

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3 Joy

Thank you for your weird day guidelines Gregg, I’ve had a few lately and find that when I don’t react to them they can turn into surprisingly delightful days. Not taking them personally is for me, such a key point.

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4 Coco

I’ve always been aware of the awkwardness, that often becomes messy, of beginnings and endings. Most people don’t do either well. I’ve certainly had my share of failure here and some gracious success too. This is where revisionist recollection, favorable or not, is interjected to get over the uncomfortable time; or there can be a rush to get past it, or sometimes a reluctance to let it morph. The reaction phase can become a singular event and absolutely annihilate any future success that might have been part of the previous period of time. Staying the course, with what you do know to be a true heart expression, such as patience, thankfulness or faith in love, will always provide an available segue so the next part of life can feather in with perhaps graciousness but more important accuracy. Wonderful subject Gregg; that every person encounters continuously.

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5 Beth C

I’ve always admired those who have the poise to let an awkward moment pass without adding to it. Handling transition gracefully whether momentary or extended is a skill worth honing.

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6 Steve V

Seemingly ready or not it is good to hear life’s call now and move with it!

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7 Colin

I find the course of stillness to usually be the best course when feelings run rampant. There is almost no reason to react when your heart is riled up, and you almost always regret it when the hot feelings have left. This is even more true during the “weird days” when things seem to be going sideways. Bad decisions can seem good during these times and can compound in weird ways.

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8 Joshua

And a weird one it was, Thanks for the heads up!!!!
Had I not read this post this morning, my day could have turned all sorts of stupid.
Taking things personally, really makes no sense.
Maintaining this heightened perspective, has brought a smile to my face and heart.
Thank-you.

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