“There are lessons to be learned by listening to others.” – fortune cookie
My youngest son kept the fortunes from our Chinese food dinner last night and this one in particular stood out to me as being worthy of further consideration. As a business manager and a father I am often in the position of having to reconcile divergent viewpoints and of receiving feedback on my performance, often from the most unlikely sources.
I’ve learned over time that nearly everyone has something valuable to offer most of the time. I’ve also observed that the most vociferous do not necessarily offer the most valuable solutions and that the quietest often miss their opportunities to contribute for a variety of unfortunate and often predictable reasons. The quality of contribution also does not seem to be dependent upon the level of involvement. Whether the person is a stakeholder or a casual observer, it pays to listen to what those who care enough to speak up about something have to say.
When the people in your world care enough to talk, care enough to listen. There may be a valuable lesson in there somewhere that could save you a lot of trouble down the road.
“It always seems impossible until it’s done.” ― Nelson Mandela
My very best friend recently impressed me with a series of recent accomplishments that just months ago seemed like an endless list of monumental tasks. Even though I didn’t have much of anything to do with the accomplishments, apart from providing moral support, I felt a shared sense of victory and relief that the goals were met.
When you first look at a distant (or near for that matter!) goal, it’s not entirely unlikely that a feeling of impotence weariness will pass through your feeling realm, seeking agreement. What you do with that feeling goes a long way in determining your inner momentum. If you latch on to it, wrap it around you, stick your toes in it to see how it feels, you will likely be shackled with a sense of powerlessness in relation to the goal until such time as you overcome the inertia of impuissance.
If, however, you recognize the feeling and perhaps note its presence, but don’t give your heart to it, you will quickly move past it and move onward and upward in relation to the goal. I’ve come to learn that we are our own worst enemies in this regard. No one can stop you as much as you can.
Remember this point and you will be well on your way to achieving that which is yours to accomplish in life. Have a great day!
“The highest compact we can make with our fellow is – “Let there be truth between us two for evermore.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Truth between us two forevermore. What a beautiful thought! This should be the foundation of every relationship, every friendship, every internal conversation.
What a gem of a thought! Shall we make it so?
Criticism, accusation, disdain, and judgment are the product of a weak mind and a hardened heart. Mercy, forgiveness, compassion, and the willingness to extend a helping hand, however, flow naturally from a mind conscious of right and a heart flowing with love.
I decided while driving to work yesterday that I would look for five beautiful things I had never seen before on my countless trips to and from the office. It was an interesting exercise, because it forced me to concentrate my thoughts on beauty, the shadow of truth, rather than spending the time mindlessly or spinning my wheels relative to matters I probably could do little about during my drive in.
Living in rural North Georgia made the task easy, especially given the spring foliage, but I took the time to really appreciate the five things I chose. It occurred to me while I was enjoying the beautiful trees, fields, fence lines, and unpaved roads that genuine appreciation expands the influence of that which is appreciated.
Appreciation magnifies beauty.
“The true soldier fights not because he hates what is in front of him, but because he loves what is behind him.” — G.K. Chesterton
Everything you do is backed by a motivation which is in turn underpinned by an inner orientation. That orientation is either rooted in the spirit of love or in the absence of that spirit, the spirit of hatred.
When your inner orientation is to the spirit of love, you could be said to worship love. When you worship love, your motivations are grounded in love and your actions are therefore backed by love.
When your inner orientation is in the absence of the spirit of love, you are invariably afraid of the dark. You fear the unknown and you fear love’s shadow, truth. Your motivations are the product of a mixture of fear and greed and you serve not as a true soldier of love, but as a henchman of hate.